‘The Law of Attraction’ and how to enjoy happy and positive parenting and relationships - (excerpt from ‘The Best Parent I Can Be’)
The Law of Attraction states that: ‘I attract to myself, whatever I give my focus, attention, or thoughts to; whether wanted or unwanted’ or in other, more simple words: ‘What you think or what you believe is what you will see reflected in your life’ or the way I like to think of it: ‘What we give most thought to is what we get back’
Nowhere is the power of suggestion stronger than with children. Using positive parenting tips, realistic law of attraction techniques and healthy positive thinking can help you raise happy and healthy children.
The key when relating to parenting is to only focus on those things you want for and from your children, and not the things you don’t want for or from them. I understand (from personal experience) that this may not always be an easy thing to do and does take some work.
We tend to focus our attention on the things about our children that annoy us such as a messy room, dirty clothes on the floor, not concentrating on school work, disrespect...And so on.
What we do then, is move focus and attention to the things we don’t want. So we get more of the same behaviors because this is where our attention is placed.
The children are frustrated and so are we!
Most parents will acknowledge that the very first word they stressed to their children was “NO!” Although it mostly comes from love and a desire to protect our children, without realising or intending it, this can have a very negative effect on the child.
When we think about our thoughts and language how often do we use the words, “don’t”, “not” and “no” with and around our children.
Just ask your children to list some examples of these words and I’m sure they will have no trouble coming up with a comprehensive list.
- Don’t make a mess
- Do not hit your sister
- No you cannot have another biscuit
- Don’t make me cross
- Do not be home late
We all know the list could go on and on for pages!
When you think about it, what is it that we really want? I imagine what we want is for our children to-
- Keep clean and tidy
- Be nice to their sister
- Eat something healthier than a biscuit
- Behave nicely
- Be home on time
So why don’t we just say that in the first place!
Paying attention to the words we use is so important in attracting what we want instead of what we don’t want. The words we use are also important because of the feelings they generate when they are used, both in the one speaking them and to the one hearing them.
As we know, limiting beliefs or negative mental habits begin in childhood as a result of thoughts that are continually being reinforced (especially those with emotion).
With that in mind, we can see that a positive request to do something rather than a negative demand is way more productive. It can create a desire in the child to do what you request as well as promote a positive mindset.
Putting this into practice:
Although it may sound simple enough to stop using these three tiny little words, often parents find it challenging. Making changes in our lives, even ones that we can see as beneficial is not always easy. As it is with anything, change begins within our mind…
So when we shift our perception of our role as a parent in our child’s life, the way we communicate changes too.
REMEMBER when we use words like “”No”, “Don’t” and “Not” they are based on controlling which is acted out by issuing orders and commands. More often than not they are met with a negative response or reaction.
In contrast, when the parents honor and respect that their children are individuals, they see their role as a parent more to guide and nurture, rather than to ‘command’ and ‘control’.
So when you hear one of those dreaded, “Don’t, not or no” statements come out of your mouth…Remember to ask… “What do I really want?”
The LOA for kids is easy and as you now know, all it takes is a few changes in language to get you started.
Keep your attention and focus on what YOU WANT.
The kids will feel better and so will you!
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